Avoiding and solving conflicts

“We’re all water from different rivers, that’s why it’s so easy to meet; we’re all water in this vast, vast ocean, someday we’ll evaporate together.”

Yoko Ono

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What are the consequences for our daily life which result from the fact that we live in a world synthesized by our brain? Basically it means that if you meet other people you somehow meet a part of yourself. It makes a lot of sense to act accordingly and be respectful, kind and generous. If you have a conflict with somebody, it also helps a lot to think that the other person is basically you. This makes you think hard how you would like the conflict to be resolved, and this leads usually very quickly to a solution (of course because the other person is indeed very similar to you). Remember the story with the Polynesian fisherman: if somebody wants a fish from you, give it, enjoy the happiness of the receiver and then go catch another fish. You basically give the fish to yourself. It is easy to see that, if we all do this, life becomes much better for everybody.

Also keep in mind that the only thing you can change efficiently is yourself. To change others against their will is very hard or even impossible. So you should always try to change yourself instead of the other.